As I was growing up my parents tried to instill independence, original thinking, a sense of “anything is possible” and most of all to not “believe the hype”. I didn’t always know exactly what they were talking about, or how it related to me, but over time and as I’ve grown older it has become clear.
I wouldn’t say that their skills of how they tried to instill these values were that great, but I think I learned more by their examples of how they lived vs just the word. One statement that always stuck with me was dad would constantly tell me, “Figure out who you are and dress accordingly”. As a teenager I would look at him and think, what are you saying? I would think, ok I’m 16, I know I’m 16, and I really like my Guess jeans! I was good with just knowing that about myself. Obviously that’s not what he was getting at, and it took me a good 10 years to really understand what he was saying.
There’s a lot of clutter in the world that keeps us from really looking inside. And I often feel that society is set up to make it difficult for us to really “see”. It’s much easier to bury our heads in the sand and not drudge our own paths. We have so much “stuff” (social media, societal views, our own crazy wheels in our brains) around us, that it’s difficult to sit in silence and listen to what’s inside.
As I look around and coexist with society I find myself surrounded by anger, lack of common decency and a complete disconnect to others. I’m not writing this blog to bash others or to write that I have all the answers because I definitely don’t, but I’m fed up with the lack of insight that we as a society have. How can we possibly teach our kids to have compassion and respect for others when there’s so little of it being shown on a daily bases. Now, my husband would say that the statement I just made is not entirely true. Yes, maybe there are plenty of examples of shit in the world (my interpretation of what he would say) but how we take in this information, how we respond to it, and how we allow it to impact us is what we have control over. Just because another person may not exhibit the compassion and respect we want, doesn’t mean that we respond in that same disgusting manner. Man, this is a topic that can go on forever! I’m not sure I’m smart enough to go there, so I won’t, but my point!?
I think my dad had/has it right…Figure out who you are and dress accordingly. Spend time in stillness and listen to what’s inside. Don’t believe the hype that other’s want you to believe. Get to know who you really are and what you’re about so that you are clear when weeding out the crap and recognizing the gems. Change starts with one person, I challenge all of us to be that person. We may not be able to control the chaos around us, but we can control how we move around it. This is a life long journey, not a weekend retreat…And to all the noise that’s around…We control the volume. 😉 Happy Hump Day. xoxo
Photo Cred// Nyanzi