From the Ground Up

Screen Shot 2016-06-01 at 10.16.47 AMIt’s been a while since my last post. I keep telling myself I need to sit down on a regular basis and write (wrote an amazing best high pressure shower head guide last week, btw)…unfortunately life takes over and my writing takes a backseat. So much is happening at the moment, I almost feel overwhelmed on where to start. We’re at the final stages of architectural planning, and at the beginning phase of construction. I cannot tell you the excitement I feel of finally being able to design our own space, with the help of builders Plymouth, of course.

The creative process of bringing a vision to life, has been and is, part of my DNA. Whether it’s working with clients, designing our own home or starting a new business venture, the creativity that follows a vision is really what fuels my whole being.

I love how my husband reminds me that everyday is another opportunity to design and live creatively. Outside noises and negativity wreaks havoc not only on my spirit but also on my creative process. Staying open and grounded to what’s real and true is the real work in staying and being creative. I’m so looking forward to this next stage of chaos…lets be real, there’s a lot of chaos in creativity. 😉 Nevertheless, I welcome the path that’s unfolding in front of me and I look forward to sharing in the journey. On the flip side take an inventory on what fuels you, creativity does not only live in the “creative” space.  Happy Hump Day, xoxo

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Finding Time

IMG_4921It’s crazy the balancing act that life really is. When we’re kids, the importance of being kind and respectful is taught to us at almost every turn. We hear, be kind share your toys, always say please and thank you, respect other’s for their differences, be grateful, have compassion and be happy for another’s accomplishments. But what happens to some as we age? Those fundamental teachings get forgotten about and our insecurities and downfalls start bringing the misguided and what I think, “the evil” out. Aren’t we supposed to grow old gracefully and with growing older comes knowledge, power with that knowledge and inner awareness and peace?

I guess in a perfect world that would happen, but guess what…we’re far from perfect. I could sit here ranting and raving about all the “wrongs” I feel people have done or are doing, but honestly, that doesn’t do anything except keep the negative swirling. What I chose to do is try to learn and go deeper inside myself so that I can continue to grow and share positivity with others.

 

I was given a book about 15 years ago that helped me understand and bring clarity to the happenings that were taking place around me. I think now in 2016, it’s time to bring it back out and revisit it. The book is called The Four Agreements. I highly recommend taking a few moments for just yourself to grow and understand “you” better. In the end what was happening around me, I was in control of changing. I will definitely be taking my own advice and finding time for me!. xoxo

It’s Just a Game! Or is it.

IMG_4702When I think back to my twenties watching professional sports, I think of laughter and carefree fun with friends and family. We all enjoyed the spirit of competition, watching these men and women fight and strive to be their best. Of course back then, a game was just a game. At the end of it we all went about our business and started our week without a second thought to what game had been won or lost.

These days my reality is a bit different. Of course I’m still a spectator of sorts, but being a spouse of someone who is directly related to the sporting world, a game now is not just a game. Something has happened. These aren’t just athletes and coaches that go out and entertain us week after week. These are human beings that have families and lives outside of what we see on the television.

It’s very easy to draw a conclusion based on the highlight reel that is shown to the world. Wether through social media, television, or print, assuming that life is easier or sweeter than anybody else’s is just not accurate.

I can’t speak for other’s journey’s, but I’m in a unique position to experience events and people a little differently. What I can tell you is, there’s a lot of sacrifice that happens behind the scenes. I know, I know, we all make sacrifices for the well being of our families for now and for the future. But when you’re thrown into a public forum where your moves are followed by many, I think that there’s a perception that “lucky” breaks have gotten them more.

It’s crazy now when I watch a game or match. I try to enjoy it for the pure pleasure of competition, but it’s just not the same. I care so much about the athletes and coaches, wether I know them or not, and I put my husband in this category as well. I want so much for them to do well because I’ve experienced their hours, days and weeks away from home, as well as the high’s and low’s, the set backs and disappointments that come with the job. Although I think that the athlete’s and coaches would see the journey differently, as a supportive family member I think we definitely take the process a bit more personally.

After watching today’s Seahawks game, I’m once again reminded that in our triumphant moment that is a win, there’s the other side that is the agony of defeat, of course I’ve had the privilege of feeling this first hand with Super Bowl 49…So as much as we talk about, analyze and judge the moments that have taken place, lets also remember that these are regular people just trying to make a living.

With that said, the journey that is the “supportive partner” is a whole other story. Maybe for another day another post. For now I’m happy with celebrating a win. xoxo Go Hawks!

Back to Reality…

FullSizeRenderThere’s something about the holidays that transports me into la la land. For two weeks I feel that I’m basically floating. Between crazy family moments, Star Wars marathon’s, New Years and the NFL playoff picture (husband’s involved with the Seahawks,) these two weeks are fun, relaxing and exhausting all at the same time. It’s a time that is none like any other time of the year, and once the new year starts, it leaves me sad that the two weeks have flown by.

So it’s a new year, now what!? I guess it really is a new beginning, a rebirth, that every year we’re given the chance to change things up. Maybe not huge life changing moments, but small changes that will shift our lives for the better. So that over time those small changes lead to big one’s.

About nine month’s ago I left and closed a pilates business that I had had for over 20 years. It was a huge decision for me for many different reasons. One, leaving a group of women that had truly become my family was extremely difficult. The comfort and joy that they brought me would probably be something that I would not be able to re-create in another business. Two, leaving behind an independence that I had created for myself was something very unfamiliar to me. I’ve never not earned my own money, and never not owned my own business. Making a transition into being “just a mom and wife,” however short that title may last, was uncharted.

These last nine months have been fun, exciting, difficult and frustrating all at the same time. Many lessons have taken place and honestly they really didn’t hit me till the end of the year. I’m in this unique opportunity to take advantage and do whatever it is I want to do. Not do what other’s think I SHOULD do, or stop myself because of the judgment and perception of others opinions. I’m honestly done with that thought process. It curbs my creativity and honestly I don’t have the strength to deal with others insecurities being put on me.

So here I am “back to reality” in this new beginning… Starting with my blog, I really do enjoy writing and expressing what I feel and sharing fashion, interior design and life experiences. I’m going to change Show and Tell Me a bit. Making it more “real” on what’s happening with me and around me, I think will fulfill me more than just writing my opinions on fashion etc. Of course keeping my privacy will be a balancing act, but I think this process will unfold in a way that not only will light me up creatively, but maybe will also inspire you to find your own journey.

I’m excited for 2016. For someone who has never been keen on the “unknown,” I’m looking forward to peeling back the layers and:

Work hard.

Talk less.

Do what I feel is right.

Learn from my mistakes.

Build people up.

Laugh often.

Stop complaining.

Invest in myself.

Dream big

Plan ahead

and Love unconditionally.

Here’s to my new reality. xoxo

Who Are You?…

DSC_9415As I was growing up my parents tried to instill independence, original thinking, a sense of “anything is possible” and most of all to not “believe the hype”. I didn’t always know exactly what they were talking about, or how it related to me, but over time and as I’ve grown older it has become clear.

I wouldn’t say that their skills of how they tried to instill these values were that great, but I think I learned more by their examples of how they lived vs just the word. One statement that always stuck with me was dad would constantly tell me, “Figure out who you are and dress accordingly”. As a teenager I would look at him and think, what are you saying? I would think, ok I’m 16, I know I’m 16, and I really like my Guess jeans! I was good with just knowing that about myself. Obviously that’s not what he was getting at, and it took me a good 10 years to really understand what he was saying.

There’s a lot of clutter in the world that keeps us from really looking inside. And I often feel that society is set up to make it difficult for us to really “see”. It’s much easier to bury our heads in the sand and not drudge our own paths. We have so much “stuff” (social media, societal views, our own crazy wheels in our brains) around us, that it’s difficult to sit in silence and listen to what’s inside.

As I look around and coexist with society I find myself surrounded by anger, lack of common decency and a complete disconnect to others. I’m not writing this blog to bash others or to write that I have all the answers because I definitely don’t, but I’m fed up with the lack of insight that we as a society have. How can we possibly teach our kids to have compassion and respect for others when there’s so little of it being shown on a daily bases. Now, my husband would say that the statement I just made is not entirely true. Yes, maybe there are plenty of examples of shit in the world (my interpretation of what he would say) but how we take in this information, how we respond to it, and how we allow it to impact us is what we have control over. Just because another person may not exhibit the compassion and respect we want, doesn’t mean that we respond in that same disgusting manner. Man, this is a topic that can go on forever! I’m not sure I’m smart enough to go there, so I won’t, but my point!?

I think my dad had/has it right…Figure out who you are and dress accordingly. Spend time in stillness and listen to what’s inside. Don’t believe the hype that other’s want you to believe. Get to know who you really are and what you’re about so that you are clear when weeding out the crap and recognizing the gems. Change starts with one person, I challenge all of us to be that person. We may not be able to control the chaos around us, but we can control how we move around it. This is a life long journey, not a weekend retreat…And to all the noise that’s around…We control the volume. 😉 Happy Hump Day. xoxo

Photo Cred// Nyanzi

 

Cover Up!

honest-company-sunscreen-best-natural-kids-sunscreen-bottle-680x453Summer is in full bloom. The longer days, outdoor grilling and a more laid back lifestyle has me feeling like “I’m living the dream” lol. The flip side to living in lala land in my head, is the reality of frizzy hair, oily skin and hiding under hats and sunscreen trying to avoid the skin damaging rays.

Just this week the EWG (environmental working group) released their findings on sunscreen. And among the worsts one’s (causing more damage and being carcinogenic) were those we’ve come to trust over the years. Neutrogena, Coppertone and Banana Boat were at the top of the, do not use list.

I’ve been one to always buy Neutrogena, especially for my husband, so I quickly threw all those out and looked for what brands were safe and effective. Luckily what I wear and what my child wears was at the top of the “yes” list. So I’m hear to share with you my go to’s. Living in California, sunscreen is a year round endeavor. But unknowingly poisoning ourselves, obviously isn’t an option. Have a great tuesday! xoxoLP7423-2 Love Anthelios products. Beach days don’t happen without them.

UVClear520x320Elta MD is what I wear everyday without fail regardless of the season.

The-Honest-Company-logoAnd it’s no secret that I love everything in the Honest line. My son doesn’t leave the house without their sunscreen all over his body.

Photo Cred// Cup of Jo, Anthelios, Elta

Black Out

228d6d7eda9c9cd8771649bf127cb6b3As we’re getting ready to start the process of building/remodeling, my closeted interior design side starts going into overdrive. There’s a lot of excitement living inside me right now, but I’d be lying if I told you my anxiety hasn’t kicked up a bit. I have to keep reminding myself that this is a slow process, so with that, enjoying the journey is my goal. Many changes have taken place since the beginning of the year and it looks like I’ll be living in a state a flux for a time to come. In the meantime, studying interiors and architecture will be my obsession. Who knows…Show and Tell Me Design could be brewing for the future. 😉  Happy Hump Day! xoxo

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Photo Cred// Amber Interiors, NYC&G, Life.Style

Trend Alert

WOMENSWEARIt’s no secret that gold has made a huge impact during the past decade. Adding glitz and glamour to anything from skin, to closets, to living spaces. Now, kitchens are getting in on the action. Brass and copper is a trend that has been gaining momentum the last couple of years. Adding texture and warmth to a sometimes stark space, brass can give that bit of surprise that is pleasing to the eye. One word of caution, brass does pit, so it’s up keep may not be the lowest of maintenance. But if you’re anything like me…who cares. We want what we want. 🙂 xoxo

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